🌍 The 5 Fanum Love
Fanum RuleIf love makes you feel unsafe in your body or your house, it's not real love.
How kids feel taxedSomeone hurts you and says “it’s because I love you.”
You're made to share things you don’t want to share.
You don’t feel safe where you live.
Fanum saysLove should make your body feel safe, not scared.
A real friend says, “Can I?” before touching or taking.
Draw itA tree with strong roots, hugging your feet.
Fanum RuleIf love says you can’t cry or that your feelings are too much, it’s not real love.
How kids feel taxedSomeone says “stop crying” when you’re sad.
You’re told to smile even when something hurts.
You're scared to tell the truth about how you feel.
Fanum saysLove should let your feelings flow, like a river.
You can feel anything. You don’t have to hide it.
Draw itA wave with a heart floating in it.
Fanum RuleIf someone tells you who to be or what to do “because they love you,” they’re taxing your fire.
How kids feel taxedAdults say “you HAVE to” instead of asking.
Friends push you to play a game you don’t like.
Someone says, “If you loved me, you would...”
Fanum saysLove means you still get to choose.
Your “No” is holy. Your “Yes” is yours, not theirs.
Draw itA candle you hold in your own hands.
Fanum RuleIf love tells you to be quiet when you need to speak, it's not real love.
How kids feel taxedSomeone says, “Don’t talk about that.”
You feel like no one listens to you.
You get in trouble for asking questions.
Fanum saysYour voice matters.
Love lets you speak your truth and still be loved.
Draw itA cloud with sparkles coming out of it—your words.
Fanum RuleIf love tries to change your true self, or says you owe someone because of the past, it's taxing your soul.
How kids feel taxed“You’re weird, be normal.”
“You should act more like your brother.”
“You owe me because I raised you.”
Fanum saysYou are already enough.
You don’t owe anyone your sparkle.
Real love remembers who you are.
Draw itA dragon curled around a glowing star.
And no one—not even a grown-up—gets to take that away.